Why is it people think failure on their path to prepare constitutes an emergency for me? Not today... I'm sticking to my objectives

Hit Delete

What are their intentions? I used to think that everyone has your best interest at heart but I was wrong. I think sometimes it is okay to be selfish if it founded in self love and self growth. There are times when I need to stop some people from sharing their thoughts with me not because what they are sharing is bad but it may not be the best thing for me at this particular time in my life. I was the ever present listener who has learned to hit delete without reading or say I am not able to listen to you now. Sharing is good therapy but it isn’t necessarily therapy for the listener actually it may be a burden. I had friends who would off load all of their stuff on me whenever we talked; the conversation would usually start with them asking me, "How are things with you?" I would respond by saying okay but before I could continue they would start talking about what was going on with them. In the beginning it was okay but then I started to resent them but the truth of the matter is I allowed it and until I said something about it I was enabling the behavior. Well recently I did say something and came to a painful realization some friends only exist in your journey for a season. It is hard to let go at times but letting go leads to growth and that is what life is about growth and development. Every encounter, situation, or circumstance in our life is to help us grow and be a better person painful as that may be it is all part of our journey. I think coming to grips with that fact is difficult but necessary to live the life we have been placed here to live. Sometimes you have to hit delete or say not today or not ever whatever you need to love yourself through your life.

Laughing through the day...

This morning as I drove into work I couldn't help but laugh. It's as though I am bubbling over with energy as well as a joy that permeates my being for no other reason than the fact that I am alive today. So many times we get caught in life's drama and our current disappointments we forget the little things that bring us joy, like the ability to get up on our own. I was dancing in my car to no music except the sound in my head that kept saying today is a good day as I write this blog I am still laughing to myself wow I am in a good place. At the beginning of the summer I never thought a day like today would come it was horrible but I am so not complaining about this wonderful day....sista is loving life and saying oh well. I am good, I am in a good place, and I am savouring every moment of it. Laughing really soothes the soul...I love this feeling. That's all for now....Rock this life its the only one you got.

Lady P

Reason Season or Lifetime

Reason, Season, or Lifetime
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person. - Unknown

It had gotten so difficult to have a basic conversation with this individual it was driving me nuts. He was a nice guy but I had no desire to chat with him anymore in the past we could be on the phone discussing anything from politics to our relationships now I couldn't wait to hang up once we got on the phone. I started to feel as though the friendship was forced and wanted to figure out what was happening. Well this morning after a 1 minute coversation with him I realized what it was, the friendship was for a season and it is okay to move on. A lot of times I feel the need to understand the cosmic reason for a particular situation but maybe sometimes all there is, is it happened be thankful and move on.

Yippeee!!!!

Sow a Seed

"Don't judge each day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds you plant."--
Robert Louis Stevenson

Reaping is wonderful but there is a joy that comes from sowing into another's life. Today I choose to dwell not on my own stuff but to focus on sowing into the lives of each individual I come into contact with. Sometimes we get so caught up in the hustle and bustle of life all we try to do is make it through our day successfullly but today I have decided to stop and smell the roses, savour the moment, and give of myself. I know the day will unfold greatly...

Patience?

"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us. The old skin has to be shed before the new one can come.- Joseph Campbell

September is here, this past year has truly been a challenging but rewarding journey. I learned so much about life, people and myself and for that I am forever grateful. I met new friends, I developed stronger connections and I know what matters most to me in life. I think Joseph Campbell said what I have come to accept this year, "We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us. The old skin has to be shed before the new one can come." That can be said in many different ways but for me it all comes down to, one needs to be open, willing, and flexible in order to live a fullfilled life.

I am learning to be patient something that have completely evaded me most of my life. I always want to finish a task and move on to the next one but now I am learning to savor the process and enjoy the lessons I so greatly need for life. Lately I have been chatting with a friend who has mastered patience in my opinion. Last year we spent a weekend together the first day was excrutiating for me. First I thought he showed up late on Friday evening but he was fine sitting in the lobby waiting for me when I came down. I thought he drove so slowly, I thought he was wasting the day sleeping and my list went on and on but you know what I realized looking back I he takes time with everything he does and enjoys the process and I had fun once I relaxed. He never rushes and I really didn't understand it until recently. He would always say to me, "rushing only slows you down, be patient Pat". I listened so I want this coming year to be a year of patience for me...I will let go more and live that is the foundation of my resolutions this year.